When we had hurt someone's feeling, the work is done. There's no way to reverse it, and even if you try to compensate the wrong doing, the effect is there and will always be there. It can be clarified in a simple situation that we all faced in our lives. When we had lied or back-stab someone, for example a friend, he or she would get hurt and refused to talk to you. Then, when we get to know about it, and tried to make further explanation or even apologies, the wound is still there.
Even if you have succeeded at the later part, you actually have lost the days that you have actually can have fun and talk and share the life with her, also the optimum productivity of yours to complete your daily routine effectively.
Thus, we must think wisely and be responsible to what we had done to minimize the error which with or without intentionally
死亡，是无情的，它一直都在我们的身旁，一个一个地把身旁的人给催眠去了.仇恨以不重要了，毕竟它只会带来更大的伤痛。恨一个人可真的不容易，不如选择忘了过错给大家一个机会从新开始，来个好的发展。
quoted from my friend's MJ's private blog. yes, u get angry on some1, but sometimes it is disappointment n frustration on times, bcaz u have expectation on a friend. if tat person is not our friend, we will straight away ignore a stranger.
sometimes, we focus on making our friend get less angry on us, but y we never think of y on the 1st place we make d friend angry?(with exception of emo-swing cases) y v dont take d TAKE ACTION n correct ourselves so tat we wont make d same mistake in future.....mayb that's y tat friend is disappointed, instead of angrying.
v jz focus on solving d anger n tat's all. but y v cannot focus on d process n do some self-reflection?
Life is short, i have to constantly remind myself.
Saturday, February 20, 2010
小壁虎的生命教育
新年前夕，我带领四岁的小朋友进行班上的大扫除。连扫把也还无法握稳的这班小瓜，对这些扫扫抹抹，擦擦洗洗的功夫最欢喜不过了，对他们来说仿佛就是一件很好玩的事儿。对啊，做家事就该要有他们这样的心情才对嘛！
打扫过程中，亦莎发现了一只小壁虎的尸体。我把它捡了起来，并在打扫工作完毕后，与孩子们来个集体讨论，看看该如何处理这只死壁虎。
大家好奇观看了一轮后，祖闻发言了：“不要把它丢进垃圾桶里，它很可怜！”亦莎听了也一脸怜惜地回应：“那把它放进冰箱里吧！”。
听了亦莎的建议，我说：“这只壁虎已经死了，不会再长大了。它身上的肉会慢慢腐烂、生虫。如果放在冰箱的话，壁虎身上的虫以及细菌就会弄到冰箱里其他的食物，我们吃了会生病！”
可爱的亦莎听了这番话后，溜了溜她的小眼珠说：“我们把它放在market里卖，我看过有人卖！”卖？我一时困惑。但经她进一步的描述，才获悉她所指的应该是市场上所卖的咸鱼及江鱼仔！
祖闻及时反应：“不可以，如果别人买来吃怎么办？它有细菌，不可以吃！”
亦莎一脸无辜样说：“那把它放在水里......”
祖闻又有异意了：“不可以养的，它会生虫，有细菌！嗯...不如把它放在树上面，让小鸟吃！”
沉静了许久的雨璇也搭腔了：“我们把它放在石头里面！”
祖闻顿有所悟：“啊，就埋在泥土里面吧！”
在旁的我觉得祖闻提的两点建议是蛮有建设性的，于是便向大家提问，征求大家意见，看看是要把壁虎尸体放在树上让鸟吃；还是让它入土为安。大部分的孩子举手赞成要将壁虎埋在泥土里。我想多知道孩子们的想法，于是便进一步寻问，为何觉得这样的处理比较理想？祖闻回答说：“壁虎们都喜欢去泥土里，把它埋在泥土里的话，它的阿公阿嬷、爸爸妈妈就可以在那边找到它了！”哦，原来这是孩子所关心的。在他的想法里，这只小壁虎去世了，至亲的家人见不到它一定会着急担心。将它埋在泥土里，就可以让家属们有机会见上它一面，这是多么细腻善良的心思。
我接纳了孩子的想法，并补充道：“这只壁虎虽然死了，没有生命了，但当它被埋在泥土里时，它的身体会慢慢变成泥土的营养，让花草树木长高、长壮！”
有了结论后，我们一行人来到户外的草地上，用小铲子挖了个洞，轻轻的将壁虎放进去。我带领孩子们进行了一项简单的祝愿及告别仪式，个个孩子认真的和壁虎说拜拜。这只小壁虎就在一人一把土的祝福下，渐渐消失在我们的眼前......
那一天午觉醒来后，祖闻一睁开眼，第一句话就问我说“老师，那花长高了没？”花？哦.....明白了！嘴角露出了微笑的我，看着祖闻这张单纯善良的脸蛋说：“我的宝贝，没这么快，需要时间。或许新年后回来再看看泥土上的那朵小花，就知道它有没有长高了。”这孩子听了有点按耐不住地说：“啊，要等这么久啊？！”哈哈，真是超可爱的小瓜！
人性是否本善我无法确定告诉您。但我相信越单纯洁净的内心，越是容易对许多人、事、物生起关怀与爱护。这或许是我们许多成人随着年岁历练的增长而逐渐遗失了的一块，或是早已对许多有关生命的点滴感到麻木而无动于衷。
这一天，这只生命已来到终点的小壁虎遇上了这一群单纯善良的孩子，它还是称得上幸运的，因为孩子们给于它的死亡尊严，这是基于对生命态度的一种尊重。埋在土里，让它化为春泥更护花，继续展现生命的价值。
小壁虎，一路好走！
citation: http://www.meetbuddhist.com/space.php?uid=511&do=blog&id=2212
打扫过程中，亦莎发现了一只小壁虎的尸体。我把它捡了起来，并在打扫工作完毕后，与孩子们来个集体讨论，看看该如何处理这只死壁虎。
大家好奇观看了一轮后，祖闻发言了：“不要把它丢进垃圾桶里，它很可怜！”亦莎听了也一脸怜惜地回应：“那把它放进冰箱里吧！”。
听了亦莎的建议，我说：“这只壁虎已经死了，不会再长大了。它身上的肉会慢慢腐烂、生虫。如果放在冰箱的话，壁虎身上的虫以及细菌就会弄到冰箱里其他的食物，我们吃了会生病！”
可爱的亦莎听了这番话后，溜了溜她的小眼珠说：“我们把它放在market里卖，我看过有人卖！”卖？我一时困惑。但经她进一步的描述，才获悉她所指的应该是市场上所卖的咸鱼及江鱼仔！
祖闻及时反应：“不可以，如果别人买来吃怎么办？它有细菌，不可以吃！”
亦莎一脸无辜样说：“那把它放在水里......”
祖闻又有异意了：“不可以养的，它会生虫，有细菌！嗯...不如把它放在树上面，让小鸟吃！”
沉静了许久的雨璇也搭腔了：“我们把它放在石头里面！”
祖闻顿有所悟：“啊，就埋在泥土里面吧！”
在旁的我觉得祖闻提的两点建议是蛮有建设性的，于是便向大家提问，征求大家意见，看看是要把壁虎尸体放在树上让鸟吃；还是让它入土为安。大部分的孩子举手赞成要将壁虎埋在泥土里。我想多知道孩子们的想法，于是便进一步寻问，为何觉得这样的处理比较理想？祖闻回答说：“壁虎们都喜欢去泥土里，把它埋在泥土里的话，它的阿公阿嬷、爸爸妈妈就可以在那边找到它了！”哦，原来这是孩子所关心的。在他的想法里，这只小壁虎去世了，至亲的家人见不到它一定会着急担心。将它埋在泥土里，就可以让家属们有机会见上它一面，这是多么细腻善良的心思。
我接纳了孩子的想法，并补充道：“这只壁虎虽然死了，没有生命了，但当它被埋在泥土里时，它的身体会慢慢变成泥土的营养，让花草树木长高、长壮！”
有了结论后，我们一行人来到户外的草地上，用小铲子挖了个洞，轻轻的将壁虎放进去。我带领孩子们进行了一项简单的祝愿及告别仪式，个个孩子认真的和壁虎说拜拜。这只小壁虎就在一人一把土的祝福下，渐渐消失在我们的眼前......
那一天午觉醒来后，祖闻一睁开眼，第一句话就问我说“老师，那花长高了没？”花？哦.....明白了！嘴角露出了微笑的我，看着祖闻这张单纯善良的脸蛋说：“我的宝贝，没这么快，需要时间。或许新年后回来再看看泥土上的那朵小花，就知道它有没有长高了。”这孩子听了有点按耐不住地说：“啊，要等这么久啊？！”哈哈，真是超可爱的小瓜！
人性是否本善我无法确定告诉您。但我相信越单纯洁净的内心，越是容易对许多人、事、物生起关怀与爱护。这或许是我们许多成人随着年岁历练的增长而逐渐遗失了的一块，或是早已对许多有关生命的点滴感到麻木而无动于衷。
这一天，这只生命已来到终点的小壁虎遇上了这一群单纯善良的孩子，它还是称得上幸运的，因为孩子们给于它的死亡尊严，这是基于对生命态度的一种尊重。埋在土里，让它化为春泥更护花，继续展现生命的价值。
小壁虎，一路好走！
citation: http://www.meetbuddhist.com/space.php?uid=511&do=blog&id=2212
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
finding a lost thing.......
I would appreciate tat any important info is done by sms after failing to call me. Even on my room itself on same position, my handphone have a very high or very low signal at times. Or intercom me at 20316733....thx
this could save the owner of a lost property a hell lot of worry where he put his stuff n searching
nyway, i appreciate my friends who keep the lost property for me, at least i save my petrol going there
this could save the owner of a lost property a hell lot of worry where he put his stuff n searching
nyway, i appreciate my friends who keep the lost property for me, at least i save my petrol going there
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Happy chinese new year to my dear reader
Happy Chinese New Tiger Year....hope everyone having a wonderful time with family. For those who r abroad, hope technology takes u home s well. Happy V-day too. But y celebrate V-day, if u already assume other half s part of d family, then celebrate Chinese New Year, with him n her. Who cares about V-day, when u r in love, everyday is V-day
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
I get MAD til 01022010(Mancunian Appreciation Day)
c d title, know d meaning. I know 1 Feb is Malaysian Federal Teritory Day, Aylwin's birthday, etc. I m confident, u can put many type of festival n set a lot of festival on a day.
Thanks Manchunian Chao Yi, Geng Wai Mama, Mei Chi, Yun Yi, Wan Hui, Aileen, Kelin n not forgetting Cardiffian Desiree for d hospitality, patience(on our Bathonian behaviour, or is it me alone?...haha), sincerity, time n effort tat is put in when 7 Bathonians suddenly pops up in ur Hall. Really appreciate it. Good luck in all ur studies n all d best.
It is awesome trip. It is sometimes not d destination tat matter, but d journey/friends tat accompany u.
thanks for bearing d "abnormality" tat bathonians caused.
"sorry" doesnt seem to b d hardest word, as claim by Blue, but "goodbye"
That moment ll b d memory tat is worth being reminded again n again for years to come
We managed to be strong n leave without crying. Good luck in all ur studies n all d best.
Do come to Bath, v r always here for u all
Not to forget Desiree s well, without her, we have been frozen to death in d Cardiff transit.
Like how i say to CCE, many things done by me very VERY negligible compared to many sacrificies tat is brought up by others, esp done behind d scenes, mine one 算得了什么
in this world, from my Grandma babysit me when my parents, both of them need to work, till 2ndary school till now, i dunno how many ppl have been contributing a HELL LOT for me....i always take, take n take, not much giving is given...
i really appreciate wat others done for me....i admit i m not a person who say thank you often, but sometimes, after one day, i regret not sayin tat. bcaz sometimes we tot doing favour for each other for a close friend bcome very natural...
I cannot say tat MAD is only for Mancunian, actually Londoner too,have provide shelter for us, bypass tight security of University of London Intercollegiate Hall. They r risking their rights of staying in hostel, for friendship.But in d end, they didnt show off or expect much or balasan. And Londoners work hard for Italy trip s well.
Even in 2ndary school, i dont have a motorbike but still wanna take d license. If it is not for a generosity of a female friend, alto not very close, borrowing me her Honda Cup to have a last min practise, i never even have a motorbike license b4 i come to UCSI n may retake on Sem Break during A level, which i may forget how to ride a motorbike, like now
.
Every year, 1 Feb, I ll take some time off(after lect) to appreciate d surrounding friends tat have help me thruout my lifelong journey. W/o them, who m i?
N not forgetting Aylwin, bcaz actually he plan d whole journey of Italy, which is superb n i know it consumed a lot of time n effort n judging dilemma of travelling schedule...it is not an easy task indeed
感恩every1
every 1 Feb, every year i ll get MAD, so dont kacau me tat day...haha
Thanks Manchunian Chao Yi, Geng Wai Mama, Mei Chi, Yun Yi, Wan Hui, Aileen, Kelin n not forgetting Cardiffian Desiree for d hospitality, patience(on our Bathonian behaviour, or is it me alone?...haha), sincerity, time n effort tat is put in when 7 Bathonians suddenly pops up in ur Hall. Really appreciate it. Good luck in all ur studies n all d best.
It is awesome trip. It is sometimes not d destination tat matter, but d journey/friends tat accompany u.
thanks for bearing d "abnormality" tat bathonians caused.
"sorry" doesnt seem to b d hardest word, as claim by Blue, but "goodbye"
That moment ll b d memory tat is worth being reminded again n again for years to come
We managed to be strong n leave without crying. Good luck in all ur studies n all d best.
Do come to Bath, v r always here for u all
Not to forget Desiree s well, without her, we have been frozen to death in d Cardiff transit.
Like how i say to CCE, many things done by me very VERY negligible compared to many sacrificies tat is brought up by others, esp done behind d scenes, mine one 算得了什么
in this world, from my Grandma babysit me when my parents, both of them need to work, till 2ndary school till now, i dunno how many ppl have been contributing a HELL LOT for me....i always take, take n take, not much giving is given...
i really appreciate wat others done for me....i admit i m not a person who say thank you often, but sometimes, after one day, i regret not sayin tat. bcaz sometimes we tot doing favour for each other for a close friend bcome very natural...
I cannot say tat MAD is only for Mancunian, actually Londoner too,have provide shelter for us, bypass tight security of University of London Intercollegiate Hall. They r risking their rights of staying in hostel, for friendship.But in d end, they didnt show off or expect much or balasan. And Londoners work hard for Italy trip s well.
Even in 2ndary school, i dont have a motorbike but still wanna take d license. If it is not for a generosity of a female friend, alto not very close, borrowing me her Honda Cup to have a last min practise, i never even have a motorbike license b4 i come to UCSI n may retake on Sem Break during A level, which i may forget how to ride a motorbike, like now
.
Every year, 1 Feb, I ll take some time off(after lect) to appreciate d surrounding friends tat have help me thruout my lifelong journey. W/o them, who m i?
N not forgetting Aylwin, bcaz actually he plan d whole journey of Italy, which is superb n i know it consumed a lot of time n effort n judging dilemma of travelling schedule...it is not an easy task indeed
感恩every1
every 1 Feb, every year i ll get MAD, so dont kacau me tat day...haha
my own ruling b4 blogging
of coz writting a blog is an opinion-based, so i would be happy n ready to face consequence n being critised if i write thing tat is not very accurate.
writing a blog is better than a diary is bcaz
1. paper-saving
2. if i have crooked mind on a matter, my fellow readers can correct me n bring me back to d right path, so tat i can have 正思维( d name of my group last time during form 5 Buddhism Quiz) again.
no1 is perfect, but i cannot use tat excuse to make mistakes.
of coz this blog cannot be 报喜不报忧, meaning cannot only report good stuff n ignoring in positiving d -ve stuff that happen in my life
i ll post up good article/quote to share....i did tat in facebook, but later when i want to find it again, it is lost...so i can refer back in future
i m ready to accept, having an open blog, there ll b readers who r there to read but ll not correct my misleading 思维/perception...but i do appreciate any feedback, not necessary thru reply here, but intercom me/facebook private msg/email /skype or anything
it is a memory diary basically to record n refer back my past memory, in case i m down or anything in future
this may b a not active blog, like how d owner is....but copy paste good article/quote wont take long, i guess, rather than typing one
i m typing on now bcaz it is a week break b4 sem 2, n i m too free, i guess
writing a blog is better than a diary is bcaz
1. paper-saving
2. if i have crooked mind on a matter, my fellow readers can correct me n bring me back to d right path, so tat i can have 正思维( d name of my group last time during form 5 Buddhism Quiz) again.
no1 is perfect, but i cannot use tat excuse to make mistakes.
of coz this blog cannot be 报喜不报忧, meaning cannot only report good stuff n ignoring in positiving d -ve stuff that happen in my life
i ll post up good article/quote to share....i did tat in facebook, but later when i want to find it again, it is lost...so i can refer back in future
i m ready to accept, having an open blog, there ll b readers who r there to read but ll not correct my misleading 思维/perception...but i do appreciate any feedback, not necessary thru reply here, but intercom me/facebook private msg/email /skype or anything
it is a memory diary basically to record n refer back my past memory, in case i m down or anything in future
this may b a not active blog, like how d owner is....but copy paste good article/quote wont take long, i guess, rather than typing one
i m typing on now bcaz it is a week break b4 sem 2, n i m too free, i guess
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